Monday, January 31, 2011
I Wont Grow Up
I'd look forward to sitting under the trees of our backyard sanctuary, listening to the birds and basking in the sunlight. Maybe I'll bring out my laptop and write, inspired by the beauty. All the colors come out of their winter hibernation.
And as the colors come out of their hibernation, my skin sheds its winter white, too. My freckles darken and my cheeks glow rosy red. All right, all right, for those of you who know me, you know that I am pasty white all year round. Dang it.
But I find myself stopping at least 10 times a day to enjoy the bright newness popping up around us, whether it's feeling the air get cool as I run through a shaded green-treed trail to our creek or watching the sunset create magical sky-paintings.
When I was young, I was fortunate enough to be surrounded by happy music, good books and magic. I've chosen to root myself in these ideals. It may sound silly, but I'd rather emulate a Disney princess than just about anything. Belle, from Disney's "Beauty and the Beast," was always a favorite role model. She wasn't afraid to be different and extraordinary. And like her, I'd rather find treasures in a good book than channel surf through filth, rubbish, slime, muck and putrescence. I don't ever want to be content sitting in a thoughtless stupor and watching other people live my dreams.
I wasn't quite a girly girl. I loved to play in the mud and wrestle with my brother. I climbed trees and caught crawdads in the river. Once, we caught a pail of frogs and left them in the basement window well and they all escaped, or so my mom said.
My inner child was a pioneer, off to explore my world and to conquer. I was a cowgirl riding my stick horse, leading a red wagon train of kids and blankets and peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and toy pistols and other Western paraphernalia around the neighborhood block.
So even though we are older, the inner child within each of us longs to be heard, to be embraced and followed. Our inner child is creative, innocent and holds the keys to our true desires, though over time our inner child is often told to sit, be still and listen. The keys that our inner child holds are then stuffed deep down into the pocket and forgotten.
One of my favorite stories growing up (and still is) was "Peter Pan."
In a behind-the-scenes clip on the "Finding Neverland" DVD, actor Dustin Hoffman said: "In Peter Pan, there is a place called Neverland, and if you ask people what the metaphor is, you will get different answers. One person might say it is a journey to imagination, to creativity, others may say, it means you never die. Neverland is the place that exists for all of us in the 'wish' part of our brains."
We should never forget our "inner child." We must always remember what it was like to not have a care in the world.
One of my all time favorite songs is called "Fireflies" by Faith Hill. She sings of times where she would catch frogs, call them princes and make herself a queen. She tells of how she'd sleep in castles and fall in love because she was taught to dream.
My favorite part of the whole song means a lot to me because it reminds me of myself. It says: "I found mayonnaise bottles and poked holes on top to capture Tinkerbell. They were just fireflies to the untrained eye, but I could always tell. I believe in fairytales and dreamers' dreams like bed sheet sails. And I believe in Peter Pan and miracles, and anything I can to get by. And fireflies."
So in the spirit of keeping "Neverland" alive, I plan on making this summer the greatest adventure of them all.
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Ticker-tape parade: Alexandra Burke takes to the stage for her All Night Long tour in a very unusual dress
Pre-wedding workout? Chelsy Davy hits the pavement as it is revealed she is expected to return to the UK to be Harry's date
Cheryl Cole and ex-husband Ashley have secret meeting at their former marital home
TVXQ wins Inkigayo Mutizen triple crown + other
SeeYa says goodbye on Inkigayo
GD&TOP perform ‘Don’t Go Home’ on Inkigayo
Saturday, January 29, 2011
Not such a Tourist anymore: Johnny Depp splashes out on £8.5million Venice Palazzo
'She's too young for me': Justin Bieber snubs Hailee Steinfield... the 16-year-old likes older women
Cher Lloyd plays it coy as she's reunited with boyfriend Karim Roundi at Heathrow
Is the Hilton brand expanding? Paris flaunts a fuller figure on the catwalk in Brazil
Kim and Kourtney Kardashian are in their element on shopping spree... but Scott and Mason certainly are not
'I should have said no, but I trusted the doctor': Sophie Monk reveals her regret over cosmetic surgery
She's no Mean Girl: Amanda Seyfried donates to charity with a box of old clothes
SeeYa says goodbye on Music Core
Footage from the recording of Orange Caramel’s “Still…”
“Music Core” performances from January 29th!
Friday, January 28, 2011
Put him down, Brooke Shields! Actress flirts and flashes her legs at much younger TV host
It's the invisible woman! Black Swan star Natalie Portman wraps up from head to toe
Skinny Kim! Ms Kardashian unveils her slimmer legs in skin-tight jeans
Vanilla Ows: Dancing On Ice star knocked unconscious and needs stitches in his head after 'blood everywhere' fall on the rink
Is this the next American Idol winner? Lauren Alaina, 15, emerges as frontrunner after incredible audition
Let's hope it's alright on the night! Oscars presenter Anne Hathaway suffers wardrobe malfunction in Academy Awards ad
SCANDAL’s full PV for “CUTE!” released on Sanrio’s YouTube!
SeeYa says goodbye on Music Bank
Jewelry ‘Back It Up’ for Music Bank comeback
Thursday, January 27, 2011
The odd couple: Justin Bieber and Ozzy Osbourne team up for futuristic Superbowl advertisement
What a difference a day makes: Corrie's Brooke Vincent and Sacha Parkinson look tired and scruffy... a far cry from last night's glamorous appearance
X Factor goes Stateside: Cher Lloyd and One Direction meet up in LA as they plot their plans for the future
Life as an heiress: Nicky Hilton shops in Beverly Hills as Paris flies off to Brazil
Not such a California Gurl: Katy Perry adopts 'Cleopatra' look for the cover of her new single E.T
Baylor Bear Cheerleaders
Katie Price is 'too busy' to attend the NTAs, but manages to find time to get her hair done... while Alex Reid forces a smile at premiere
Dropping hints? Christine Bleakley tries on a big fat wedding dress on Daybreak
Get a sneak peek at AKB48’s newest sub-unit, Not Yet!
BRIGHT releases 60-second teaser for “Ichinen Nikagetsu Hatsuka” + announces tour
Jo Kwon and Park Jung Min have a Kkap dance battle!
SeeYa says goodbye on M! Countdown
Jay Park raps to a remix of Lil Wayne’s “6′7″
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
Behind the scenes of Katie Holmes' sultry photo shoot for Ann Taylor
What a cutie! Danielle Lloyd's baby Archie is as good as gold as she gets her hair done
Coronation Street beats EastEnders in the fashion stakes at National Television Awards as Weatherfield's hottest residents go for all-out glamour
Nice tramp stamp Cheryl! Ms Cole shows off her new tattoo in a backless dress at the NTAs as she masks disappointment over missing out on US X Factor
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Another film flop for Katie Holmes? Reports of audience walking out 'exaggerated'
Whoops! Stiletto-clad Demi Moore suffers for fashion as she takes a tumble on the ice at Sundance
Heidi Klum flies the flag for Germany at the Best of British party in a little black dress
South Spicy Rising Actress Priya's New Unseen Deep Cleavage Tempting stills
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'Weight is my lifetime struggle': Khloe Kardashian once again forced to deny being pregnant
Cheryl gets the Cole shoulder in U.S. as Simon Cowell is set to miss new series of X Factor
'The right one comes along if you're patient': Peter Andre and Elen Rivas are more loved up than ever at her birthday party
Shraddha Das Actress in Wet And Scorching Hot In Red Dress Photo Gallery
Anushka Hot Saree Stills,Anushka in traditional Saree
Priyamani At Raaj Movie Audio Release Function Photogallery,Stills
Telugu Movie Raaj Posters,Wallpapers
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Bollywood Celebs At Sameer Soni & Neelam Kothari's Wedding Reception Photogallery
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Tuesday, January 25, 2011
Emanuel Seeks Expedited Appeal After Judges Boot Him From Chicago Ballot
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JUDY WOODRUFF: And to a ruling in another courtroom today that upended the Chicago mayoral race.
Ray Suarez has that story.
RAY SUAREZ: With less than one month to go before the primary, an Illinois appellate court ruled in a 2-1 decision to remove former White House Chief of Staff Rahm Emanuel from the ballot in the Chicago mayoral race.
Emanuel’s eligibility to run was called into question because he lived in Washington while serving in the Obama administration. Today’s ruling was a setback for the front-runner, but he plans to appeal to the Illinois Supreme Court.
He spoke to reporters this afternoon.
RAHM EMANUEL (D), mayoral candidate, Chicago: When the president asks you to serve the country as his chief of staff, that counts as part of serving your country. And I have no doubt that we will in the end prevail at this effort. As my father always used to say, nothing is ever easy in life. So, nothing is ever easy. So, this is just one turn in the road.
RAY SUAREZ: For more on the fallout from today’s ruling, we are joined by Lynn Sweet. She is the Washington bureau chief for The Chicago Sun-Times and a columnist for Politics Daily.
And, Lynn, why was this case even back in court? A Cook County court said he could run. A Board of Elections decision said he could run. And yet there he is still defending himself.
LYNN SWEET, Washington bureau chief, The Chicago Sun-Times: Well, that’s because this case was always destined for the Illinois Supreme Court. No matter what happened in the lower courts, the skirmish was going to go all the way.
The attorney who is the leading force behind the challenge to Rahm Emanuel’s residency would have brought it to the Supreme Court today if the appellate court had ruled against him, Ray.
RAY SUAREZ: In his remarks today, Rahm Emanuel kept coming back to that idea that he was serving the country. Why is that so important in this case?
LYNN SWEET: Well, it’s important because Illinois law has an exemption from the residency requirement from a Chicago — from a resident who goes to serve the country.
Now, clearly, Rahm Emanuel served the country in his role as chief of staff. But he’s talking about a section of the law that deals with the eligibility of someone in Illinois to vote. So, it’s a more elastic, more lenient threshold to allow people who serve the country to vote.
Now, the part of the law that the Illinois appellate court dealt with today was some other language in the election code dealing with the qualifications for a candidate. And what a candidate has to do is live in the municipality a year before the election.
So, while Rahm Emanuel is focusing on one legal aspect of the case, the appellate court found that the part of the code that talked about having to live in the city a year before you run, a very important part of the law.
This is a very ripe, open legal question, Ray. It has always been a close call, but it’s not surprising that an appellate court found against Rahm, just as it wasn’t surprising that lower courts found for him.
RAY SUAREZ: Lynn, the clock is ticking. The ballots are about to be printed. Early voting starts in Chicago at the end of this month. Does he have enough time to get back in the race?
LYNN SWEET: Oh, certainly. One, he’s never out of it.
Here’s why. He has a formidable lead against his three main opponent — opponents. He’s got millions and millions of dollars more than even the second-place guy in the money race, around $ 10.5 million — $ 2.5 million. Gery Chico, and Carol Moseley Braun, former senator, and the city clerk don’t even have half-a-million combined.
This case will be taken to the Supreme Court on an expedited basis, on an emergency basis. There have been many public questions of great public interest like this one that have gone to the Supreme Court, and they have acted swiftly. Their first decision, though, is whether or not to take the case. We will know that soon.
RAY SUAREZ: Today, Rahm Emanuel called it just a turn in the road.
But City Clerk Miguel del Valle, one of his opponents, said that this may be an opening for candidates like him to get another look. Even if Rahm Emanuel gets back on the ballot, does this open up the race a little more?
LYNN SWEET: Absolutely. The — there is political damage that the Emanuel campaign has to worry about even if, legally, they prevail and they’re on the ballot.
What has happened is, is that Rahm Emanuel has run a very good campaign with his millions. He’s well-funded. He has run a mini-presidential campaign, focusing on 50 wards, instead of 50 states. And he’s just overwhelmed his opposition, who — he’s out-organized them, and he’s been very message-driven, very much like a mini-presidential campaign.
Now, everyone in Chicago might know Rahm, and they know the other rivals, but there is a certain amount of fluidity in the race. This is a great chance for some of the candidates, because what you want to do now in the race is at least come in number two on February 22.
Why we call it a primary in Illinois, Ray, it’s nonpartisan. If no the — if one has more than 50 percent of the vote come February 22, the top two finishers face off April 5. So, it’s very much a race for second place and to keep Rahm below 50 percent.
RAY SUAREZ: OK. What happens now? You say there’s going to be an expedited appeal. I guess that paperwork is, where, on its way to Springfield? When will we know whether they’re going to hear the case?
LYNN SWEET: Well, I’m not sure of the timetable right now.
The — I talked to Rahm Emanuel’s campaign a short time ago. They’re also going to ask for a stay of the Illinois appellate order. And an Illinois appellate court just said, don’t put him on the ballot. If you have, take him off.
They want that decision stayed, so that ballots are printed. That might also be a side skirmish in this unfolding legal drama over who will be the next Chicago mayor.
RAY SUAREZ: Lynn Sweet of Politics Daily and The Sun-Times, thanks for talking to us.
LYNN SWEET: Thank you.
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FBI: Woman admits 1987 child kidnap
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Ann Pettway admitted kidnapping a baby after her own attempts to have children failed, the FBI said
Ann Pettway confessed to taking the baby in August 1987 from Harlem Hospital during an interview on Sunday, after she surrendered to the FBI and Connecticut police, according to a criminal complaint prepared by FBI Agent Maria Johnson.
Pettway surrendered days after a widely publicised reunion between the child she raised – now 23-year-old Carlina White – and her biological mother. Pettway was ordered to be held without bail on kidnapping charges during a five-minute appearance at the federal court in Manhattan.
Pettway said she had had difficulty having her own children in the 1980s, was dealing with the stress of trying to be a mother and had suffered several miscarriages, when she went to the hospital and saw the baby, Ms Johnson said.
After taking the baby, Pettway took her outside the hospital and, when no-one stopped her, proceeded to a train and on to her home in Bridgeport, Connecticut, where she told friends and family members that the baby was her child, the agent said.
Prior to representing Pettway at a court hearing, lawyer Robert Baum said: “She feels badly. She’s very upset. She’s expressed concern about her family. But she understands the gravity of the charges.”
Brian Pettway, a 38-year-old cousin of Pettway who lives in Connecticut, said his cousin appeared pregnant in 1987 and disappeared, only to return with a baby the family assumed was hers. He said Pettway was a reliable, loving and trustworthy cousin.
“This is so uncharacteristic,” Brian Pettway said. “We’re all left with our mouths opened. It’s kind of like a double loss. We accepted her (Carlina White) as family. Unbeknownst to us, she was not our family.”
White was 19 days old when her parents took her to Harlem Hospital late on August 4, 1987 with a high fever. Joy White and Carl Tyson said a woman who looked like a nurse had comforted them. The couple left the hospital to rest, but their baby was missing when they went back on August 5. A police investigation failed to locate the baby.
Carlina White has been living under the name Nejdra Nance in Connecticut and in the Atlanta area. She said she had long suspected Pettway was not her biological mother because she could never provide her with a birth certificate and because she did not look like anyone else in Pettway’s family.
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Fears of double-dip recession as UK economy shrinks 0.5%
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The UK economy shrank by a shock 0.5% in the last quarter of 2010 as Britain’s recovery from recession faltered.
Most of the unexpected contraction was caused by the wintry weather that gripped Britain last month, the Office for National Statistics said. Without it, GDP would probably have been flat – suggesting that the UK economy had already run out of steam before the snow hit.
Economists said the first estimate of GDP for the last quarter was much worse than expected, and meant that Britain could now suffer a double-dip recession. With inflation hitting 3.7% last month, there are also growing fears the UK is heading for an unpleasant dose of “stagflation”.
The eagerly awaited GDP figures put the government’s austerity programme under fresh scrutiny, with Labour again arguing that cuts are being made too deeply, and too rapidly.
“With families and businesses already facing both rising unemployment and rising inflation, the fact that the economy is now shrinking means the Conservative-led government’s claims to have saved the economy and secured the recovery will ring very hollow indeed,” said shadow chancellor Ed Balls.
“It is now becoming even clearer that when David Cameron and George Osborne complacently congratulated themselves in the autumn for securing economic recovery, this was in fact the result of decisions taken by the Labour government to get the economy moving again,” Balls added.
Osborne, though, refused to change tack despite the evidence that Britain’s economy shrank last quarter.
“There is no question of changing a fiscal plan that has established international credibility on the back of one very cold month,” he said.
“That would plunge Britain into a financial crisis. We will not be blown off course by bad weather,” Osborne added.
The data sent the pound falling by nearly one and a half cents against the dollar to $ 1.575, and pushed the FTSE 100 index down by 36 points.
Deputy prime minister Nick Clegg said Britain’s economic recovery was still in its “early days”.
He said: “The government has been doing the difficult work of putting the building blocks in place.”
Yesterday, though, the outgoing head of the CBI claimed that the government had failed to create a credible growth strategy.
Labour MP Chuka Umunna claimed Cameron’s administration was “a government of bystanders”.
He said: “Even accounting for the snow, today’s ONS figures show the Conservative-led government has no policies for growth.”
The ONS reported that the services sector – the dominant part of the UK economy – shrank by 0.5% in the last quarter. Construction suffered a 3.3% decline, but industry grew by 0.9%.
Data released earlier this month had shown that services suffered a sharp drop in activity in December, when snow and ice prevented many people from reaching their offices or the high street. Output in the construction industry also slowed last month, which analysts blamed on public sector cutbacks and the weather.
Alasdair Reisner, of the Civil Engineering Contractors Association, urged the government to do more to support the construction industry, or risk a further contraction in the economy.
“It is clear that a downturn in activity in the industry has an impact that is felt far beyond the site fence, acting as a brake on the country’s ambitions to return to growth,” said Reisner.
High street firms also suffered from the snow, with the retail sector suffering its worst December in 12 years.
City experts had expected GDP to grow by anything from 0.1% and 0.7% – with last month’s weather making predictions harder.
George Buckley of Deutsche Bank said today’s 0.5% decline was “quite shocking”, and questioned whether the snow could really be blamed for the drop in economic activity.
Hetal Mehta at Daiwa Capital Markets said it was “an absolute disaster for the economy”.
“It seems that the economy is incredibly vulnerable, and with the fiscal tightening yet to fully bite, we will have to brace ourselves for a bumpy ride,” Mehta said.
Charles Davis, managing economist at CEBR, was concerned that the UK economy experienced a “complete loss of momentum” at the end of last year.
“Few of us could have expected such a sharp contraction in output and the United Kingdom economy now faces the prospect of returning to recession,” Davis warned.
On a year-on-year basis, GDP during the quarter was 1.7% higher than in the last three months of 2009 – sharply slower than the 2.6% growth expected in the City.
Some economists predicted that the data could well be revised upwards in the coming weeks. Usually the ONS has little data from the final month of any quarter when it publishes its first estimate of GDP. This time, though, it put extra effort into trying to quantify the impact of the snow in December.
Andrew Goodwin, senior economic adviser to the Ernst & Young ITEM Club, said he was sceptical that the economy had shrunk as much as the ONS reported.
“These figures are quite staggering and scarcely believable. No doubt this will mostly be attributed to the snow, and that undoubtedly would have had a significant effect. However, the ONS have also said that GDP would have been flat had we not had that disruption and quite simply that does not square with what any of the survey indicators are telling us,” Goodwin said.
An early interest rise also looks less likely, according to Howard Archer of IHS Global Insight.
“Given that the contraction in GDP in the fourth quarter occurred even before the fiscal tightening had really kicked in, it reinforces already serious concern over the economy’s ability to grow significantly in the face of the spending cuts and tax hikes that will increasingly bite as 2011 progresses,” he said.
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Good Guy Gone Bad? Ted ‘Golden-Voice’ Williams Leaves Rehab
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By: Nsenga Burton
Ted “Golden-Voice” Williams, who went from being homeless to gaining worldwide fame because of his tremendous voice, has checked himself out of rehab against medical advice. Less than two weeks after checking into Origins Recovery Center for drug and alcohol addiction, Williams, who checked himself into rehab after a controversial appearance on Dr. Phil, left the rehab center in South Texas yesterday, headed for the airport. His whereabouts are currently unknown. Williams’ girlfriend is still in rehab in Costa Mesa, CA. Hopefully Williams will return to rehab so that he can get the help that he obviously needs. Clearly, the fame and celebrity was too much too soon.
Read more at TMZ.
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UK & World News: Anglicans join new Catholic branch
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Jan 23 2011
Seven Anglican priests and up to 300 members of several parishes are to join a new part of the Roman Catholic Church, a diocese has said.
The faithful, from six congregations, are to be welcomed into the Ordinariate – a grouping set up by the Pope for disaffected Anglicans.
The switch to Rome, reported to be the largest of its nature, involves three parishes in Essex and three in east London.
Between 250 and 300 churchgoers are expected to complete the move with them, a spokesman for the Catholic Diocese of Brentwood, in Essex, said. The transition follows the historic ordination of three former Anglican bishops as Catholic priests earlier this month.
The group of priests, including one retired vicar, met the Bishop of Brentwood, the Right Reverend Thomas McMahon, on Friday, ahead of their ordination.
“We had a wonderful day of sharing together and preparing for the future,” Bishop McMahon said. “It is a marking moment for the life of our diocese.”
However, the Anglican Bishop of Chelmsford, the Right Reverend Stephen Cottrell, expressed disappointed that members were converting to Catholicism.
“Although I’m sorry these people are going, I do respect their decision,” he told BBC Essex. “But it is a small group of people. The Church of England remains the church for everyone.” It is unclear where the new congregations will worship.
The seven priests – from the parishes of Chelmsford, Hockley, Benfleet and Billericay, in Essex, Leytonstone, in London, and two from Walthamstow, also in London, will go through training before they are ordained as deacons in May and then as Catholic priests in June.
The Ordinariate was established for Anglicans who wished to join the Roman Catholic Church while retaining aspects of their heritage. The Vatican-approved scheme offers an alternative to opponents of women bishops, gay clergy and same-sex blessings.
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A Tiger Daughter’s Sense Of Humor
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Exactly one year ago, my grandfather died. On the day of the funeral, we gathered at the cemetery. In the center of all of us, stood my grandmother. The matriarch. The tiger mother of six Chinese American baby boomers. The woman who sent her kids under the dining room table if they talked during dinner.
In a moment of silence she asked my dad, son number three, to say a prayer.
My dad – who doesn't always hear the phone ring – missed the cue.
The moment passed, and we collectively launched into the Lord's Prayer.
It was then that I heard my aunt whisper to my dad one of the only Chinese phrases I know, a phrase so rude, we knew we were never supposed to use it – "Are you deaf?"
In the middle of that moment, which was loaded with Chinese ceremony, tradition, respect, duty, and expectations of perfection – my dad chuckled.
This is Chinese humor. It's sometimes insulting, sometimes self-deprecating, and often subtle. This is what people missed about Amy Chua's book, “The Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother.”
Chua spoke at the Hillside Club in Berkeley yesterday, and as I listened, I came to think of the book as one big inside joke. Chua said repeatedly, "You either get it, or you don't." Turns out, she is just a drama queen, who is ready to laugh at how she told her children that if they dared leave the house, they would be eaten by ferocious man-eating fish.
In light of the scathing reviews, Chua emphasized that the book was a memoir and not a parenting how-to guide. She read aloud one of the harshest points of her story, where she calls her daughter a 'savage,' and people were laughing hysterically. This Berkeley audience got the joke. Chua said, "My daughters have all the best lines." For example, when she threatens to drag her daughter's dollhouse to Salvation Army, her daughter calls her bluff and says, "Well, why are you still here? Aren't you going to Salvation Army?"
Not that the whole evening was fun and games. You could tell the audience wanted Chua to explain the media explosion around her book. KPFA Morning Show Host Aimee Allison asked probing questions like:
If my kid is not successful, did I fail?
- No. There are so many definitions of success.
Is the narrator in the book really you?
- Yes, but 18 years ago. The narrator changes over the course of the book.
Were you played by the media?
- No, I take full responsibility for it, just like my parents taught me to.
Some people would say what you did to your kids was abuse, what do you think?
- People use 'abuse' too broadly. There are kids who are seriously hurt by their parents and I take that very seriously.
Chua admitted that she said horrible things in the past, but she was trying to impart values in the only way she knew how. During her own childhood, the violin symbolized perfection, elegance, and achievement. Instead of allowing her daughters to pursue achievement in another way, she forced them to play the violin.
After Chua's crisis in the book, when her daughter smashes a glass in St. Petersburg, she allows her younger daughter to quit the violin and take up tennis, but you could tell that the tennis racket does not have the same significance for Chua. "Lulu was a beautiful violin player… I knew she could never be as good a tennis player – I mean, you can't start when you're 13!" she said. But for Lulu, the violin had come to symbolize oppression instead of excellence, she explained.
I found it impossible to listen to Chua speak and not think about my own family. Do I resent the way my parents questioned my A minuses and told me to stay after school to earn back the extra points? When I look at my sister and my cousins, I see karate trophies, student body president awards, piano certificates, and Honor Roll plaques. The firestorm about the way Chua pushed her kids made me question whether we were abused as kids. Were our choices unfairly taken away? Are we victims of tiger mothers and fathers?
But on that point, I agree with Chua. Tomorrow, my whole family will gather on the anniversary of my grandfather's death, and we'll gather in love. None of us ever questioned whether our parents loved us. Though they may have pushed us and acted "tough," the message that we were loved was consistent. There will always be discrepancies over parenting best practices, but as long as your kids hear that message, then you're doing alright. Chua realized that her youngest daughter wasn't hearing that message, so she changed.
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Tech Bigs Buy Village’s Bacchus House Where Napster Once Partied
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So much for West Village townhouses lagging behind their uptown neighbors. The 24-foot-wide converted carriage house at 40 West 10th Street has finally sold after nearly five years on the market for the stupendous price of $ 20 million. “It’s like you’re outside a little palazzo in Tuscany,” Brown Harris Steven super-broker Paula Del Nunzio told The Observer back when the 8,500-square-foot home first came on the market.
The Tuscan feel fits not only in terms of the exquisite Beuax Arts architecture that dates, in part, to 1833 but also the building’s pedigree—it has been in the possession of Italian wine heir and financier Enrico Marone-Cinzano for almost exactly two decades. (He bought the place in
January 1991.) Now, according to city records, it belongs to the San Francisco-based Founders Fund.
The $ 20 million deal makes this the first trophy sale of the year, of which there were only two such townhouse sales last year—another sign of an improving real estate market, perhaps.
Ms. Del Nunzio dubbed this the Bacchus House, a nod to the god of wine both past and present who inspired the space. Reconfigured by sculptor Charles Kreck, who lived at 40 West 10th Street for more than 60 years, and further renovated by Mr. Marone-Cinzano, the main feature of the home is a 40-foot landscaped atrium, around which the main rooms are arranged. It is like the Marriot Marquis in miniature, with breakfast enjoyed overlooking bamboo trees that rise 30 feet into the space. There are six bedrooms and seven-and-a-half baths.
The sale was first reported by our old colleague Roland Li at Real Estate Weekly.
The Bacchus House first came on the market five years ago for $ 19.5 million before jumping $ 2 million in price a year later—and then being listed two days later with Sotheby’s for $ 18.75 million. The house has been unlisted for more than a year, but that still did not keep it from nearly setting a downtown townhouse record. That prize belongs to 2 North Moore Street, one of the biggest sales of 2010.
Yet the Bacchus moniker fits for another reason, as well. As Curbed points out, Napster co-founder and Founders Fund partner Sean Parker once rented the townhouse for a whopping $ 45,000-per-month, where he threw elaborate bacchanals. Will his fellow Founders, PayPal creators Peter Thiel, Ken Howery and Luke Nosek, be throwing brash bashes there once again, or is the gang all grown up and this about business?
Perhaps this will become the city’s grandest tech incubator yet.
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College Chronicles: Eating Disorder Treatment And Mistreatment
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There's a reason students at the University of Chicago call it "the place where fun comes to die." Its students are competitive. Its teachers, unforgiving. In short, the school demands 110 percent from you. Which, I can only imagine, is hard to give when you're starving.
Natalie developed an eating disorder as soon as she left home for U of C. She skipped meals and purged multiple times a day. She danced 10 hours a week. She couldn't stop working or start eating. Her behavior became so extreme that she suspected she might have bipolar disorder. At which point she finally decided to go to the university's student resource center, thinking the staff there could help her overcome whatever psychological problem was keeping her from eating. But she said the counseling center's health professionals addressed only her body mass index, not her mind.
"My behavior was basically dismissed," said Natalie, who is now 22 and uses medication and therapy to treat the diagnosed bipolar disorder that she thinks made her anorexia so severe. Each visit to the center was the same. "Before discussing medication or asking me how I was doing, [my doctor] would march me upstairs to the bathroom, weigh me, and then march into her office, where she would whip out a body mass index chart to see if I had crossed the magical line or not."
Natalie is one of three Chicago alumnae I talked to about coping with eating disorders while attending the academically rigorous college. (Fellow alumnae I should say – I graduated two and a half years ago.) I asked to hear their stories after reading a recent study released by the American Academy of Pediatrics that found eating disorders in young people at levels higher than they've ever been. I wanted to know how these disorders play out on college campuses where young people develop unhealthy eating behaviors, and where others bring habits that started in high school.
It turns out the University of Chicago is not alone. According to a recent New York Times article, college campuses across the country are struggling to provide the mental health resources for behavioral problems that take a physical toll, like anorexia and binge drinking.
"The only treatment that we know of that is effective is the restoration of calories and weight," said Becky Steinhauer, a psychiatrist at the University of Chicago's health clinic. While medication can help with the psychological symptoms that accompany eating disorders, for the physical ones, Steinhauer says she uses the body mass index (BMI) to calculate whether a student is healthy or not.
But the former students I talked to who struggled with eating disorders said their doctors focused so much on their BMIs, they all but ignored the mental issues they had simultaneously.
"The school doesn't seem to care much if you're addicted to cocaine or methamphetamines," said U of C alumna Lauren, now 28, who struggled with drug addictions, as well as self-mutilation and an eating disorder. She said the health center's staff never addressed the drugs or cutting, even after she admitted she was having serious problems with them. To her, the eating disorder was a defense mechanism at a time when she felt otherwise mentally incapable to dealing with her life in college. "As long as I was in pain I felt invincible," she said.
But for health professionals, there's reason to view the eating disorder as the chief medical concern. According to Steinhauer, anorexia nervosa is the most deadly of all psychiatric diseases, with 20 percent mortality rates in adults due to complications of starvation and the high suicide rate associated with the disorder.
"It can constitute a medical emergency," said Steinhauer, who considers a BMI level of 19 – 25 to be healthy. "If someone comes to my attention because they have anorexia, and have lost a lot of weight, and are at the gym for several hours a day, they get railroaded to the hospital," she said.
And that removal from campus may be part of the treatment. A college atmosphere can put extra pressure on students with eating disorders, and Steinhauer said sometimes the university needs to take action to remove them from it. "These students get straight A's, but they're subsisting on 800 calories a day… what prisoners at Auschwitz subsisted on. Students here are doing high-powered intellectual work under conditions of starvation. The loss of gray matter in your brain – the stuff you think with – is not reversible. They're asked to go to an in-patient treatment center because they're going to die."
However, according to the three University of Chicago alumnae, the prospect of leaving school came up too fast, without any alternative options. The third alumna, a 25-year-old whom I'll call Sally, recovered from her eating disorder before she went to college, but was identified by the university as someone needing regular check-ups. In hindsight, she said removing students from the university atmosphere can often do more harm than good. "I know from personal experience and from others that it is empowering (and the only way to fully recover) to develop independence," she said.
Natalie and Lauren both took leaves of absence from the university, and resented the process. They wanted to feel like valued members of the student body.
"I was in the hospital for maybe two weeks, and then I was transferred to a New York state psychiatric institution…" said Lauren. Before leaving, she had a conversation with the dean of students, after which Lauren came away feeling that the school was more concerned about the liability of a student dying on campus, than her own well-being.
Another aspect of feeling pushed out of the student body, was the amount of money the girls paid for mandatory treatment. Sally said she was told she had to make an EKG appointment, but had to pay for it herself.
After Lauren spent six months alternately in cardiology wards and psych institutions, she returned to the University of Chicago to face lots of fees. "The school set the following condition: I would see a psychiatrist at the hospital once a week. Since students are only allowed a set number of appointments at the Student Counseling and Resource Service Center (SCRS) I had to pay out-of-pocket to see someone at the hospital. This was incredibly expensive, as I did not have health insurance that covered psychiatric care," she said.
Sabrina De Lay, a University of Chicago graduate, wrote her undergraduate thesis in 2008 on the university's mental health policy. Her main argument was that the university should lay out specifically what a student's rights are, and be held accountable to respecting those rights. A few bullet points from this policy talk about allowing students to continue their education as normally as possible, and refraining from discrimination against students with mental illnesses including punitive actions toward those in crisis.She included a model policy in her thesis that she suggested the University of Chicago adopt. The SCRS did post language from the policy on their website, but later took it down.
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£100k council boss Byron Davies accused of raping drunken colleague
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Accused: Byron Davies is standing trial in north Wales charged with the rape of a younger colleague
A council chief bought a 26-year-old colleague drinks then took her back to his apartment and raped her, a court was told yesterday.
Byron Davies, 52, met the married woman at a hotel bar where she was having a drink after a meal with a friend.
She told police her next clear memory after that was waking up naked in her boss's bed early the next morning.
Davies, who earns £100,000 a year as chief executive of Conwy council in North Wales, is said to have asked the woman whether she wanted 'a quick one' before they went to work. She refused and fled, a court heard.
The jury at Mold Crown Court was told he couldn't have failed to notice she was too drunk to give genuine consent to sex.
But Davies claims she willingly went back to his flat, agreed to have sex and let him take off her clothes.
However the court heard the council boss claims she willingly went back to his flat after asking whether he was staying at the hotel, kissing then agreeing to sex and letting him take her clothes off.
Opening the case, prosecuting barrister John Philpotts said tJohn Philpotts, prosecuting, said that rape took many forms, from the hooded predator who broke into a woman's home to a man who raped his wife after repeated consensual sex over the years.
'This is a case which falls somewhere between those two extreme examples,' he said.
The alleged victim told police she had bumped into her boss at the Castle Hotel in Conwy after an evening out with a male friend with the knowledge of her husband.
The friends had two or three bottles of lager each at a pub after work before having a curry and two bottles of wine between them.
While waiting at the hotel bar for her friend to be picked up by his fiancee, she ordered half a pint of 6 per cent strength Belgian beer, the court was told.
But when she was left alone, she spotted Davies, who was drinking by himself, and approached him, asking if he was the boss of the council.
They started chatting, and he bought her at least one more lager, at which point she said she had begun to feel she had reached her limit.
‘He didn’t come across as sleazy or anything, he was just chilled and very relaxed,’ she said in a video interview played to the jury.
She said she recalled very little about later being in her boss's flat and must have passed out.
Mr Philpotts told the jury the woman 'may have behaved unwisely that night, she may have drunk more than was good for her'.
But he concluded: 'We suggest that he must have been aware that she was incapable because of her state of intoxication to consent genuinely to have sex.'
Evening meal: The alleged victim ate at the Raj Indian restaurant on the night of the incident
She said she remembered being in his car and then being in the kitchen of his apartment in Llandudno.
‘At one point I remember he was kissing me and I was pushing him off,’ she said. ‘He kept grabbing me and I told him: “I am a married woman, I am not interested, you have the wrong opinion of me”.
‘Why on earth would I want to kiss him? He’s late 40s, early 50s. I can remember him kissing me and like lots of saliva and I was telling him to get off. Maybe I came across as too friendly.’
She said at this point she thinks she must have passed out, and the next thing she remembered was Davies tapping on the shoulder at about six o’clock the next morning, at which she discovered she was practically naked, and asking if she wanted ‘a quick one’.
‘Although she was disorientated and struggling to work out where she was, she knew perfectly well what he meant,’ said Mr Philpotts.
‘She immediately got out of bed telling him that he had the wrong idea about her.’
After dressing and leaving, she tried contacting her husband before calling in sick at work.
She initially told her husband she had awoken fully clothed but that nothing had happened, but after revealing the truth he went to police. She was examined and found to have bruising to her thigh and knee, and Davies was arrested.
Chance encounter: The alleged victim bumped into the council boss at the Castle Hotel
The ‘happily married’ alleged victim told the police that she was just ‘a really, rally chatty, social person’ who would never have knowingly gone home with someone for sex.
She thought her drink may have been spiked, but Mr Philpotts said there was no evidence of that.
The court was told Davies admitted taking her back to his flat, making her a mug of tea then kissing her. He claimed he asked her twice if she wanted to have sex before they went to bed.
Mr Philpotts told the jury that the woman ‘may have behaved unwisely that night, she may have drunk more than was good for her’.
But he concluded: ‘We suggest that he must have been aware that she was incapable because of her state of intoxication to consent genuinely to have sex.’
Cross-examined by David Williams, the alleged victim admitted she had once cut her throat with a camping knife after an argument with her husband at a friend’s wedding.
He accused her of being ‘a wilful person, who lacks judgement, who is impulsive and capable of hurting people if you want to’.
She retorted that it was ‘nasty’ to bring it up, saying it had just been a short period of instability.
She admitted she could be flirtatious but denied that in CCTV pictures showing her leaving the restaurant with her arms around her male friend, his hand was on her bottom.
Davies, who gave his address as Yelverton in Devon and was suspended following the allegation, denies raping the woman on March 23 last year.
The case continues.
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In October 2009, the US Chamber of Commerce had a full-scale revolt on its hands. Angry about the lobbying behemoth’s full-bore opposition to Democratic climate-change legislation, Apple, Nike, Johnson & Johnson, and a handful of other blue-chip corporations quit the Chamber. A few months later, about a dozen local Chambers of Commerce publicly broke away from the group, arguing that the national organization had swung too far to the right and no longer represented its members’ views.
Now, some of the same questions are beginning to surface over the Chamber’s hard-line stance on health care. Since the new Congress has begun, the group has come out swinging against “Obamacare,” boosting conservative claims that reform is killing businesses and the economy. “It’s time to go back to the drawing board,” said Tom Donohue, the Chamber’s chief executive officer, at his annual address last week. “The Chamber was a leader in the fight against this particular bill—and thus we support legislation in the House to repeal it.”
Could another civil war erupt within the Chamber over health care reform? Given that full repeal isn’t politically feasible any time soon, a repeat of 2009′s defections seems unlikely, and the Chamber itself has begun adopting a more targeted approach to submarining reform. But when it comes to the Chamber’s constituency outside the beltway, some local branches say they don’t agree with the national Chamber’s stance on repeal.
In Draper, Utah—one of the state’s fastest-growing suburbs—the business community has been enthusiastic about some of the early benefits of the legislation, William Rappleye, president of the Draper Chamber of Commerce, tells Mother Jones. He points in particular to the tax credits for employee health insurance that some small businesses will be eligible for, starting with the 2010 tax cycle. “They’re happy about the fact that there are credits there to offset costs involved for them,” he says. “Very small business hasn’t been able to afford health care for its employees.”
Though “the jury is still out” for the Draper business community about the overall legislation, he says most of his members “look forward to some reform.” Rappleye adds that he personally feels adamant that reform shouldn’t be overturned. “Hopefully they don’t throw the whole thing out—and this is coming from a Republican…I don’t believe we’re in a place in this country where we’re just going to throw people in the street and let them die. We have to have some sort of safety net.”
On the other side of the country, Carl Hum, the president of the Brooklyn Chamber of Commerce in New York, voices similar sentiments. While the group’s individual members are still uncertain about the ultimate impact of the legislation on their businesses, they agree with many of the underlying principles of the Democratic legislation, Hum says: “A lot of the small business community supports the idea that everybody should have health insurance. This is a basic need for everybody.”
Just the same, Hum still shares some of the conservative criticisms of reform, arguing that some of the insurance regulations that have gone into effect immediately have forced insurance companies to raise their premiums. (Reform supporters deny that there’s a direct link between the two.) But Hum stresses that such concerns are likely to fade over time. “That’s a bit of a hiccup, a bump—whatever you want to call it—in affordability. In the long run, I think the business community will be supportive of the reform act.” Like many other small-business leaders, Hum held out hope that the state-based insurance exchanges, which will begin in 2014, would help small businesses become better equipped to access and afford health insurance for their employees.
Even branches of the Chamber of Commerce that are more openly dissatisfied with Democratic reform don’t run as far to the right as the national organization. Salt Lake City’s branch, for instance, has slammed the legislation for failing to control costs—one of the major Republican criticisms of the legislation. Yet at the same time, the group has broken from the GOP party line by emphasizing some of the positive aspects of reform, as well as its desire to improve the legislation, rather than shredding it. When asked whether the Salt Lake Chamber opposed federal reform as a whole, spokesman Marty Carpenter declined to answer the question directly: He referred Mother Jones to principles outlined on the group’s website to get a sense of “where we felt they hit and missed it” and stressed that the Salt Lake Chamber supported “continuing to work to better that legislation.”
Such local business leaders point out that that the national Chamber doesn’t speak for them on every issue. The Chamber’s support for repeal “doesn’t mean we’re always in lockstep with them on everything—their position doesn’t control our vote,” says Carpenter, noting that the Salt Lake Chamber hasn’t taken a formal position on repeal. Similarly, Brooklyn’s Hum says: “In any family, we’re going to have our disagreements.”
The Chamber, meanwhile, denies that there is any discord among its members on health care. “There is no disagreement,” says Blair Latoff, the US Chamber’s director of communications. “Everyone supports health reform." The Chamber and its members, he adds, just don’t support the Democrats’ “flawed and irresponsible” approach to it.
But there’s no denying the divergence of views within the Chamber’s ranks on health care. It’s just the latest reminder of the gulf between the Chamber’s unapologetically conservative views and those of the small businesses that it purports to represent. Though the Chamber portrays itself as the country’s leading voice on Main Street, one glance at the national organization’s donor base and leadership show an organization dominated by major corporations.
As Mother Jones has reported, the Chamber “claims that 96 percent of its members are small businesses, yet its self-selected board includes just 6 representatives from small businesses, 1 from a local chamber, and 111 from large corporations.” What’s more, the national organization has been predominantly bankrolled by just a small fraction of its members—most of them megacorporations.
As a result, the diversity of views within the business community has often been stifled, with deep-pocketed groups like the US Chamber dominating the national debate. In response, alternative small business associations and lobbying organizations have emerged in an effort to give voice to dissenting perspectives—and they’ve put health care reform front and center. The Seattle-based Main Street Alliance launched in 2008 to change the view that “small businesses are uniformly conservative.” The organization is now working in 13 states to educate its constituency about the legislation. Similarly, the Small Business Majority—a pro-business San Francisco organization headed up by a Democratic donor—has tried to push the pro-reform message by partnering up with liberal advocates.
Moreover, as more of the major pieces of reform begin to take hold, small businesses are likely to become increasingly concerned about how reform will affect them—and how they can best use the existing legislation to their benefit rather than overturning it. As such, they may become more vocal about breaking away from the national Chamber’s hard-line opposition to the federal health care reform—and encourage a more pragmatic approach to tweaking the law within the business community.
Even within the Draper branch itself, views on health reform have run the gamut from criticism to full-fledged support. Each member of the local Chamber has “to know what their stake is—each one of them is going to have their own opinion,” says Rappleye. In fact, he adds, Draper’s Chamber of Commerce “used to have a slogan—’The United Voice of Business.’ It was one of the first we got rid of, because it’s not really accurate. You can’t really say everybody’s for [health reform] or against it.”
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